Hey guys. I know, I know, it’s been a while. In case you missed it, I’m taking a little break from my blog to really focus on my articles for the Tab (which, by the way, has been a really great experience. Getting to know that your work has been seen thousands of times over is actually awe-inspiring). Anyways, here I am, saying hi.
What was the last time that you posted a picture because it made you feel good? Not because you want other people to see it, to like it, to comment on it. But because you know you look cute or strong or happy, and dammit, if that isn’t reason enough. Has it ever happened?
I’m one of the worst offenders when it comes to this. I want to post photos of where I am, what I’m doing, so people will notice. I want to tweet and post status updates to see how people will react to what I have to say. But I know these things never make me truly happy. So today, I was thinking – when was the last time I did something because I knew it would make me happy, above anyone else?
We are all striving for approval. That is human, and it is normal. We all just want to feel like we fit in and that people like us. But why do we do certain things only for the approval of the pack?
Our culture has such a stigma against doing things for yourself, about wanting to feel good for yourself and yourself only. We have been conditioned to believe that other people can call us attractive, but we cannot call ourselves this. We seek the likes and comments of others. We feel like we should talk to boys we don’t have feelings for, because they make us feel valued, feel important. But why can’t we make ourselves feel that way? Why do we tell ourselves that we need to work out, we need to put on makeup, we need to do everything we can so that other people will admire us? Why do we feel like if our photos don’t reach a certain number of likes, we must have done something wrong?
I’m not saying that we should be unable to take a compliment, or reply “I know,” every time someone comments on our latest Instagram post. But we should take pride in ourselves, and know in our hearts that we truly are good enough.
Let me tell you guys a little something about me: I’ve been writing since I was eleven. However, I had never shared my writings outside of the classroom with anyone until I began this blog. But don’t think that I am running this to get the approval of others. Obviously, I’m flattered that anyone would be willing to read this. And I am sometimes tempted to post things because I think that’s what you all want to hear. But in all honesty, I wanted to have a blog, so I made one. It empowers me and reminds me that I can be the person who makes my dreams come true. It reminds me that my voice, while soft, makes me feel wonderful when I express it. I write this blog, first and foremost, for myself.
Y’all, I just really hope that you understand that it’s important to do things, and to be someone because that’s what you want. I hope you understand that you are the only person who can empower you. At the end of the day, peoples’ comments will fade, relationships could crumble, social media sites will become obsolete. But you will always have yourself. So you better make sure you like you.